I received this message during the week There are some very basic but important concepts dealt within this short composition. We all must work on our relationships with friends, family, and co-workers. It is what makes the world we live in work
from Tim Connor, CSP
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The key issue here in my opinion regarding the positive or negative use of conflict in relationships is the degree of TRUST, ACCEPTANCE, and RESPECT (TAR) that is present. If you lack any of these, any conflict will sooner or later, erupt into a battle and one that may have its ultimate and final solution with the termination of the relationship.
Where TAR is present and used as a filter through which any and all disagreements are passed, you will be amazed at how the outcome will be more beneficial.
I have experienced a difficult divorce where the conflicts just grew more frequent and more heated as time passed. The issue, looking back, was not whether I took out the trash or was late for dinner, but what was the degree of TAR that was present in the relationship. Having said that TAR is not in a relationship any more than passion is in a relationship of fun in a job. These things are in people. So if TAR is not there it is because it isn’t in either or both of the parties. As a result I guarantee that sooner or later without it TAR your conflicts will be destructive. The key to effectively managing conflict is to ensure you continue to maintain and develop TAR in the relationship.
Relationship quote for the week:
"No one can hurt you without your consent."
Have a great week. Tim
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